It's coming up!
You're big day! The day you'll vow to spend the rest of your life with the
person you adore! How exciting! How new! How terrifying!
I will be married
this Saturday (just three days) and, let met tell you, even when you are committed
to another and KNOW you will marry them, that doesn't mean you won't have
wedding jitters.
You know, those
knots in your stomach as you think of all that will change. Knowing you'll have
to take care of another person and not be as selfish as you are right now.
You'll have to love when you want to be disrespectful. Cook dinner. Clean. Fold
his underwear. Fix the plumbing again! Hand him a beer after his long
day of work, though you just got off too. Listen to her talk in circles about
how she feels (which never makes that much sense anyways). Those kind of things.
Don't get me
wrong, I love my husband-to-be. A lot. A LOT! And there's nothing that will
change my love (because true love is a chose based of the honor of your word
and not a feeling that comes and goes like the wind). I know he will take care
of me and be by my side when things get hard. We'll love, we'll fight, we'll
say mean things without meaning it, and kiss and make up, and learning from
everything and everyone we can.
Still. I'm
nervous.
Satan's a smart
booger too, if you haven't noticed. He hates marriage, because God created
marriage to be a epic metaphor of Jesus and the Church. The husband is Jesus
and the wife is the Church. Ephesians 5:22-24 - "Wives, be
subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the
wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so
also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything."
Jesus laid down his life for the Church, and in turn the Church submits
and follows Jesus wherever he goes.
Because of
Satan's hate of truth, he has been trying everything to destroy our engagement.
The love of my life and I got into a huge fight that rippled into other areas
of our lives, creating unneeded stress and drama. We did learn more about one
another, so always be on the look out for troubles teaching you something
valuable. Also, for the first time, I've been looking at other guys. Not in a
"oh, I'm gonna flirt with them and see where it goes! ;)" but in a curious
way. I know it will lead to fantasizing, which will lead to desire, which will
morph into unfaithfulness. I don't want that. In the name of Jesus! I don't
want that. So, these new thoughts from the enemy have been met with brutal
force and will be silenced with the Word of God.
Please respect
what I say here, as you see, I'm being very blunt and honest with you.
It's ok to have
wedding jitters. It's normal. Marriage is a HUGE thing that should not be taken
lightly. Far to many people don't take it seriously, thus all the broken homes
and damaged kids who will be the leaders of the next generation, who don't know
what a healthy, non-chaotic lifestyle truly is. Brakes my heart.
What is not good
is to not talk to someone about it. Find a good, trusted friend who is strong in
the Lord who can listen to all your fears and worries and gently remind you of
the truth.
Now, if you are
in an unhealthy relationship, by all means your wedding jitters won't leave. If
you know the relationship is bad, get out now before you have said your vows
before God and man. Just because someone said "I love you and will always
be here for you" means nothing when their actions do not line up. Stop.
Breath. Look out your relationship objectively. Find out what God wants. Do it.
Please don't stay in a destructive relationship. For the sake of your children
and your own sanity, find someone who will love and respect you
unconditionally.
If you are in a
relationship God wants and blesses, then please relax and remember it's ok to
be nervous and have jitters about your wedding day. No cold feet now! :)
You've got it!
Your day will be great! All the planning and organizing is almost over! Even if
all your ducks don't line up in a row, at the end of the day you'll be married
and happy! :)
And may God bless
you as your adventure finally begins!!!
